How do i tell if my son is gay
“You want to shove those words back in and put the lid on. But you can’t. Your child is gay. This goes against everything you’ve been taught. It was not what you had in mind, and you instantly wonder where you went wrong.”
When you change into a parent, you comprehend to expect the unexpected. But for many Christian parents, nothing can ready them to hear that their beloved child is gay. This is the child you have cradled, spoon fed mashed bananas, and dreamed a lovely future for. How could this be? What will the church say? What will your friends say? What does the future hold? You can’t even get your head around this.
If you are a Christian parent, family member or friend to whom your loved one has come out as lgbtq+ or lesbian, then this is for you.
I encourage you to sit down, relax, maybe get a cup of tea, and soak in what I’m about to tell you. My hope is to guide you as we walk for a bit through this maze of confusion, to help you find your way to wholeness. In many Christian circles, this is not good news, and you may begin to spiral into reflection and self-searching. We’ll get to that. But at the bottom of it all, this is not about you. Most parents’ first mistake is to mak
Telling Others
5 Ways You Can Help Your Child Tell or Not Tell Others
Prioritize your child’s needs and preferences regarding who and when to tell.
This story is your child’s story; your kid gets to settle who to say. They may be eager to be open, or they may be uncomfortable being discussed among family and friends. Let them get the lead, or ask their permission.
The “big reveal” may not be necessary.
Always share in the way most cooperative to your youngster. People may figure it out on their own and a gradual realization may be finest for them. Months or years can go by without a clear utterance about your child’s LGBTQ identity while in the meantime, normal relationships are preserved. Many people are unconscious of the social stigma they express toward LGBTQ youth. When this becomes personal, through someone they care about, they can often uncover their own route to acceptance over time.
They may demand you to relate someone. Help if you can.
If your child asks you to tell someone, be as cooperative as you can. They may long someone to recognize (another parent, for example) but be nervous to narrate that person. You can offer guidance to your youth regarding the range of responses you a
Help! My Son is Gay
by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director
“So should I push my son towards women now?” That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with same gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality. But the address to their son’s struggle is not to push him into the arms of a woman. In fact, such a move could actually do more damage than good.
But what should a dad perform for his son? In a word: connect! I understand when saying that many dads might think, “I am connected to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.” But the fact is that simply being show doesn’t mean you have any compassionate of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can catch and understand. Proclamations of facts undertake little to shift his heart. He wants words dripping with raw passion and heart-felt fire. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him. In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and relate him how much you love him, how proud you are of him, and how you think he has what i
How should Christian parents respond if one of their children comes out as gay?
Answer
If a infant reveals his or her homosexuality, the first thing for Christian parents to do is permit their child know that, no matter what, love and grace will win the day. Mom and dad’s love will persist, regardless. First John 4:8 says, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” There is nothing to be gained by callousness, denial, or denunciation. Rather, “God’s kindness is intended to lead [a person] to repentance” (Romans 2:4).
Our children (like ourselves) have heart issues. We’re not trying to put excellent fruit on bad trees; we are passionately praying for our wayward children that God would heal the roots of the tree—that He might remove their heart of stone and renew it with a heart of flesh (see Ezekiel 36:26).
Parents should also encourage a child who has “come out” not to define himself as a “homosexual.” It’s important to ask questions: Are you in a relationship? Is the relationship sexual or platonic? Have you acted out your feelings of same-sex attraction, or are they just thoughts you have? Parents can reach alongside a struggling child and help him