Gay relationship tips
Relationship Tips for Same-sex attracted Men
In 2014, I attempted my first 5-day backpacking trip. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Sir Edmund Hillary, the first mountaineer to summit Mt. Everest without supplemental oxygen, once said, “It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves.” I recall feeling something very similar after my much less significant achievement. I learned that climbing a mountain was much more than a physical feat. The real challenge was cultivating a positive mindset and facing the mental doubt. I felt as if I was conquering myself with every step forward. I knew that if I allowed the self-doubt and inner critic to take over, the next step might head me down the mountain instead of up it. The reward of such work was the camaraderie with my fellow trekkers and the facts that challenging tasks are possible with perseverance.
Reflecting on this experience reminds me of what it’s like to tackle the adventure of dating. The prospect of nurturing a romantic relationship can seem quite daunting, but the reward of perseverance and hard work is the deep connection and intimacy we enjoy with our partners.
You can reap the benefits of bein
What Gay Men Should Expect in a Relationship
Some gay men place up with a lot in their relationships. Their long-term partners will aggressively flirt with other men in front of them, go home with a guy from the bar without any forewarning, sleep with ex-lovers without gaining consent from their current lover, or brag to their current boyfriends about the quality of their sex with strangers. Ouch.
Here’s what I find most concerning. Some gay men don’t feel they have a right to be upset about these behaviors. They’ll ask me why they feel so jealous and how can I help them let go of their envy. They think that the queer community believes in sexual release and it isn’t cool or manly to object to their partner’s sexual behavior.
In other words, they feel shame for experiencing hurt by the actions of their long-term partners.
Heterosexual couples find plenty of social support for treating their partners with respect when it comes to sex. Outrage is the typical social response when friends are told about poor relationship behavior among straight people. When gay men tell the same heartbreaking stories they are less likely to get a big response. LGBTQ
Lets Talk About Sex | 4 Strong Communication Tips for Gay Couples Struggling With Sexual Issues
Many of us are comfortable talking about sex with friends. We divulge details, share tips and tricks, and even get advice on aspects of our strained sex lives. Talking openly and honestly with our sexual partners, however, comes with a higher level of discomfort. Talking with transparency comes with the risk of hurting our partners’ feelings, embarrassing ourselves, and asking for things that touch selfish, and it forces us to be vulnerable about the parts of ourselves many of us try to hide: our naked, sexual bodies.
Psychological analyze shows that couples who talk openly about sex state higher levels of relational satisfaction. How, though, do couples talk about sex so easily?
Tip #1: Spend Time Destigmatizing Sex, Sexual Exercise, and Sexual Body Parts.
One of the best ways to work through the discomfort of sexuality is to grab up a sex guidebook that can help you grasp more about your body, sex, and sexuality in general. Some of my personal favorite books on this topic are Esther Perel’s Mating in Captivity and Janet Hardy’s The Ethical Slut. Books like these will help
8 Tips to Improve Your LGBTQ Relationship
The following practices, developed from years as an LGBTQ therapist functional with LGBTQ couples, may help you deepen your relationship. They may sound simple, but they include been proven to work.
Cultivate compliments
Come up with ways to compliment your spouse on a weekly basis. If they look excellent in those pants, announce them. Don’t keep it to yourself. It’s not a state secret.
Celebrate organism wrong
Practice the words “I’m sorry” or “You are right” or “I was wrong”. If these are tough words for you then practice with something easy and work your way up to admitting big mistakes. These words act as superfood for your relationship.
When they are so irritating, look inside
When your partner is extremely irritating that’s a great time to look inside and listen to what is going on with you. Before you strike them for their annoying behavior ask yourself: Are you hungry? Anxious? Tired? Feeling especially vulnerable? Often it is about you, not them.
When you combat take a time out
When you are fighting you are not communicating so it’s very unlikely that the two of you will re