Can you be gay and aroace
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“How can you be aro ace and gay?”
If you are asking this you are likely failing to realize that both aro and ace aren’t dark and white terms. They allow for demi and grey areas. You’ll also note that neither aro or ace denote gender. In some cases, people will want to use the label “gay aro ace” in order to transport more meaning. Always use the labels someone provides you, because if you willfully drop one it’s erasure. If you add more then what’s given, you are labeling someone else.
Here are some real animation examples: I'm pan aroace, and basically, I am aro-spec, so because I'm on the spectrum, I self distinguish as aro, even tho technically I am not Fully Aromantic, (such as, grey/pan-romantic). That's just me personally, others identify differently. - anon
I'm aroace and most of the attraction I sense is aesthetic + sensual. Others might feel alterous attraction, etc, OR they might be demi/grayromantic and/or demi/gray asexual & shorten it to just "aroace" for simplicity. There are lots of ways ppl can be aroace and still label themselves as something else -monaters
I identify as a sapphic grey-aro ace, and the way it wo
Am I an AroAce or just awkward?
IvoryOwl1
So… this is something I’ve been debating for a while. Since this collective is open and friendly towards these topics I decided to ask…
I’m in my late 20’s and I’ve never been in a (romantic) relationship nor had any particular interest in chasing one. I may have had a “crush” or two as a young teen but they were fleeting (and over a distant relationship no less!) I find dating people troublesome and sex makes me kind of uncomfortable. I like it in my imagination but not when it comes to real thing, you get what I’m saying? Some people may argue that maybe it’s just my appearance or lack of confidence but I feel like my perspective would remain the same even if I were more pleasant and confident in myself.
Yet this is the kicker… I favor romance and sex in fiction, though it doesn’t get me “in the mood” like it does for most other people. It’s just “fun”, like a mental stimulation sort of thing.
Does any of this make me an aroace, even though I like romance/sex in fiction and my imagination? Or am I just a weirdo?
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Hi! So I've hit a roadbump you could say aha,
I considered myself aroace for a scant months now. I'm sure I'm ace, but I touch like I'm a fake aro...? I'm in a partnership right now (lesbiahonest I'm gay.) I definitely love her. like, really devote her. I just want to clasp her, cuddle, passionate things, you know?
but I don't really feel as if it's... idealistic attraction. It feels like we're just best friends. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, but I'm not sure about her. I treasure her, but then again, I treasure all of my friends, and I proclaim it, a lot. I adore everyone. I can't really feel the difference between the extreme love I have for my friends and the extreme love I have for her.
I love girls, like, wow. I love girls. I want to shield them all, deliver them all the hugs and adore I can. I'm questioning having a poly relationship with other girls (maybe a group of 3!) because of my stance on girls, but I'm just... unsure? for me it'd just feel like a close friend team except we're all gay and a bit more loving towards each other.
So basically, I'm absolutely the most confused gay out there.
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Why aromantic and asexual people belong in LGBTQIA+ people
Jennifer Pollitt is an assistant professor and assistant director of the Gender, Sexuality and Women’s Studies Program. In addition to teaching, she lectures and facilitates workshops for both academic and professional audiences, including co-founding Empathy A Work, LLC, and organizing the Men & #MeToo Conference in Philadelphia. She has developed comprehensive sexuality curricula used by the American Medical Association and other universities. She also belongs to the nation’s oldest and largest legal advocacy group that fights for the civil rights of LGBTQIA+ individuals and those who live with HIV. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ society, she is a powerful ally of asexuals and aromantics and we asked her to share her knowledge of these lesser-known identities that fall under the queer umbrella.
We spoke with Pollitt about what asexuals and aromantics can teach others about connection, why they belong in the LGBTQIA+ community, and why they are so often left behind in LGBTQIA+ discourse.
Temple Now: Two of the more recently recognized identities within the LGBTQIA+ acronym are asexual and aromantic. Can you des