Old gay sex
Why are gay men over 50 creature erased by our culture?
About a year ago, after five years perform, endless rewrites and table readings, a film-festival award, and input from queer friends in the industry, I finally took a profound breath and sent my queer-themed sitcom pilot, “Life After Death,” to agents and producers. I was ready to go to battle with the bigwigs.
The reactions were swift and merciless, one (gay) agent writing me that, although the show was funny, the characters were depraved, the language vile, the sexual references unthinkable for a mainstream, albeit cable TV, audience. Among dozens of offenses listed, he said that no one will watch a principal man make a joke about bottoming. “Where,” he asked, “are the heroes who show how far the collective has progressed?”
The exhibit, about a fifty-year-old gay man struggling to overcome alcoholism, narcissism, and a sex-addicted past, and set against the backdrop of his tumbling L.A. writing career, wasn’t meant to be the next “This Is Us” or even “Looking,” a scarce age-friendly dramedy filled with gay sex scenes. And, for the record, there wasn’t a snippet of nudity in the pilot. It was meant as a humorous, albeit dark, take on
‘We don’t hold anything back’: meet the Old Gays, TikTok’s most influential pensioners
No written description quite captures the joy-inducing positivity of their online videos: bopping along to Taylor Swift in slinky striped swimwear; countless dance trends and TikTok challenges, completed in various seductive states of undress. Twirling and whirling in only feather boas and Speedos to Kylie. Clips neatly edited to cut from outfit to outfit, often climaxing in the skimpiest of one-piece swimwear. Over the last six years, the foursome acquire become certified social media superstars, but not like any other. “We’re The Old Gays,” they say, collectively, “a TikTok sensation with 11 million followers and counting. And if you’re not on TikTok, honey, you’re living in the past.”
Today, the four are sitting squarely together in front of a laptop camera: two on low chairs upfront, the others perched on stools right behind. We’re here to talk about their new book: The Old Gays Guide to the Good Life. As always on occasions like this, they’ve coalesced at 80-year-old Robert’s place: a house in Cathedral City, deep in the California desert. He’s sitting endorse right, behind Mick, 67, a commi
Gay Relationship Advice: Age Gaps in Gay Relationships
Many of my LGBTQ counseling clients ask me why they are only attracted to gay men younger than themselves. If you are happy internet dating gay men in their twenties, then this question is not important. It’s like asking “Why do I prefer blondes over brunettes?” My advice is to let yourself enjoy dating whomever interests you (as long as they are over the age of 18).
Age gap relationships are more common than you may realize. In western countries:
- 1 out of every twelve male/female couples has an age gap of 10 years or more
- that number increase to 25% in male/male couples
- and 15% of female/female relationships
That same study indicated that age gap partners are more satisfied and more committed to each other than partners of similar age–though there is some investigate that points to a correlation with higher rates of divorce. Research also shows that couples with an age gap of less than ten years are happier than those with an age gap greater than ten years. You can find more details on these stats on this episode of the podcast I Love You Too, by Psychotherapist, Dating Coach, Couples Counselor Jessica Engle,
Upon watching its sequel, I suddenly remembered adoring the 2020 action film The Old Guard. I was drawn to its worldbuilding, Gina Prince-Bythewood’s slick activity filmmaking, the camaraderie of the immortalized characters, and how gay everyone was, especially Charlize Theron’s Andromache (nickname: Andy) who was in a century-long situationship with Veronica Ngô’s Quỳnh. My fond memories of these characters returned in spades, because they were sorely missed in The Old Guard 2, a colossally dull follow-up that feels like it takes an eternity to see in and of itself. Not even the additions of Henry Golding and *Fall Out Boy voice* Uma Thurman can retain it.
A few months accompanying the events of the first film, Andy (Theron) and her motley crew of immortal mercenaries — Joe (Marwan Kenzari), Nicky (Luca Marinelli), Nile (KiKi Layne) — along with their mortal pal, former CIA agent Copley (Chiwetel Ejiofor), continue to execute their vigilante missions. One of these leads them to Tuah (Golding), a fellow immortal only Andy knew about for some reason. Andy learns through their banished ex-member Booker (Matthias Schoenaerts) that her former boo thang Quỳnh (Ngô) has resurfaced. M